Family Crisis Coach
Grieving and Loss of a child, Understanding Children and Drug addiction
A Family Crisis consultation with Cynthia is Personal, Private and Confidential. When you call Cynthia at 647-218-2676 the coaching begins immediately to assist you with your current situation. The goal is to defuse the current crisis and to implement long-term solutions through programs and sessions taught by Cynthia Poole. Cynthia's provides a safe environment a non judgmental and at times a sense of humor to her tender hearted approach to wellness.
Traumatic events happen and if they are not dealt with they will rob you from living a full and happy life. At our very core we are all spiritual beings and we know that our mind is a very powerful tool. If traumatic events are not dealt with, you are in a survival mode and the information you are working off of is often misinformation from your past traumas. Cynthia works with you to successfully change your world. Knowledge is Freedom, and together you will develop positive insights and strategies for a happier, healthier, balanced life.
Cynthia has a strong personal background in dealing with the sudden loss of a child, children of divorce, ADD, ADHD, Drugs. Alcohol and Substance abuse along with Depression, Anxiety, Relationships and Family difficulties, Stress management, Burn out and Trauma Recovery, Grief and loss (pets), Retirement, Parenting (Step-parenting) and Low self esteem.
Please note that Family Crisis Coaching is not a replacement for working with a Psychologist, Psychiatrist or Physician.
Investment: $80.00/per hour
Spiritual Life Coaching
Do you want to create a successful life? Have you been trying to make life changes without any successful results? Do you feel like you are stuck? Do you want to learn to trust the language of your heart, your intuition? If the answer is yes, you may want to consider a Spiritual Life Coaching Center. You can be coached on anything from career choices to relationships. If you need to achieve a specific goal, or want to improve your whole life, a personal Spiritual Life Coach can assist you in your objectives. Learn to create healthy boundaries,
Spiritual Life coaching helps you act more successfully – A Spiritual Life Coach helps you do things in new and more effective ways. You can’t do the same thing over and over again and expect changes. If you want new results you will have to do something different. You will work with effective tools to approach life in a more successful way when you attend Spiritual life coaching sessions As your personal intuitive advocate Cynthia will guide you in becoming your most try authentic self, making heart felt decisions that will bring you deep genuine satisfaction in your life.
Fee: $100.00 per session or a package of 5 sessions for $400.00
Each Coaching Session is 1½ hours
Are you looking for highly successful and very effective tools that are easy to learn in a very short amount of time?
Look no further…learning TIR can assist you in helping those suffering from PTSD, childbirth trauma, burnout, job loss, depression, grief and dying (including pets) parenting difficulties, rape survivor, cancer patients, teen difficulties and so much more.
Traumatic Incident Reduction (TIR)
TIR is a rapid (compared to traditional therapy) method of effectively reducing traumatic stress from emotionally and/or physically painful events in the past. It involves re-experiencing past traumas in a completely safe environment, free of distractions, judgments, or interpretations.
When something happens that is physically or emotionally painful, one has the option of either confronting it fully and feeling the pain, or trying in some way to block one's awareness of it. In the first case, the action of experiencing (perceiving and understanding) what has occurred is allowed to go to completion and the incident becomes a past incident. However, in the second case, the action of experiencing that incident is blocked. That is, one represses the incident, and the incident (together with the intention not to experience it and any other intentions and activities present in the incident), continues to exist as ongoing unfinished business. Such traumatic incidents may continue to exert negative effects. We say such incidents carry charge defined as "repressed, unfulfilled intention".
This blocking activity is a self-protective impulse. It "works" to a certain extent, but it can cause us to have attention and awareness tied up in incidents from the past. This has a dulling effect on our ability to perceive, to respond intelligently in the present, and to enjoy our current environment. Unexamined, unresolved past events tie up our energy and intention. Traumatic Incident Reduction provides a safe space and the means to fully examine that which had been blocked. A past incident loses its ability to hurt us at the point where we have looked it through and through. In the process, we release our resistance and the painful emotion and negative thought patterns contained in that past trauma. At the point where the incident has been fully viewed, we feel our attention become un-stuck from it and often have some realization. This is called an end point.
The idea that present difficulties may be caused by past traumatic incidents is not a new one, but the recognition of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as a major difficulty for many returning Vietnam vets, gave it a higher profile. Once the phenomenon was clearly recognized, PTSD was easily identifiable among other populations, such as rape survivors and victims of natural disasters. People with PTSD are severely incapacitated by ongoing, uncontrolled remembrances of their traumas. In effect, they are continually reliving these incidents. Although survivors of all kinds of traumas with PTSD and flashbacks offer perhaps the most dramatic example of living in the past, the phenomenon is quite common to people in general. In normal life, most people can be triggered into momentary or prolonged reliving of past traumas of varying degrees of severity, with attendant negative feelings and behavior. TIR is a technique designed to examine the cognitive, emotional, perceptual, or other content of past incidents, to reduce or eliminate emotional charge contained in them, and thus to relieve the person of their negative consequences, whether or not a diagnosis of PTSD applies to this person.
In the great majority of cases, TIR correctly applied results in the complete and permanent elimination of PTSD symptomatology. It also provides valuable insights, which the viewer or client arrives at quite spontaneously, without any prompting from the facilitator and hence can "own" entirely as his/her own. By providing a means for completely confronting a painful incident, TIR can and does deliver relief from the negative effects, enabling the person to move on. The resolution of past traumatic incidents can bring about a greatly improved quality of life. Because of this, Traumatic Incident Reduction is often included in a Life Stress Reduction Program.
How and Why does TIR Work?
Freud based his work on the theory that in order to recover from past traumas, it is necessary to achieve a full anamnesis (recovery of lost memory). He never adequately explained why anamnesis was necessary; however. Dr. Gerbode proposed the following person-centered explanation:
A trauma, by definition, is an incident that is so painful, emotionally or physically, that one tends to flinch away from it, not to let oneself be aware of it, or in Freud's terms, to repress it. It is the flinch and not the "objective" description of the incident that makes it a trauma. Hence, an event that is challenging and exciting for one individual may be traumatic for another. The one for whom it is a mere challenge is able to "stay with it" and master it; the one who experiences it as a trauma is not.
From a person-centered viewpoint, an intention is simply the most proximal, the most subjective part of an activity. If I intend to win a race, from that intention flow all the means I use to win it: the various movements of my muscles, leading to forward movement of my body and ultimately to pulling ahead of the other racers, etc. In other words, the intention is the beginning of the action, and the consequences flow outward to become manifest physically. An activity continues so long, and only so long, as the corresponding intention exists. That means that for each ongoing intention, there is an activity (at least a mental one) that continues as part of the here and now.
In fact, people subjectively define time in terms of the activity they are engaged in. Objectively, time is a featureless continuum. But subjectively, time is divided up into chunks, "periods" of time. For every given activity (and for every given intention) there is a corresponding period of time, and so long as you have an intention, you remain in the period of time defined by that intention (and activity). Holding onto an intention holds you in the period of time that commenced with the formulation of that intention. There are only two ways of ending an intention:
Fulfilling the intention, whereupon it ends spontaneously. You can keep intending to win a race after you have won it.
Unmaking it, even if you don't fulfill an intention, you can decide not to have that intention anymore and cause it to end. This, however, requires a conscious decision. You have to be aware of the intention and why you formed it.
But what if the intention is buried in the middle of a repressed trauma? In this case, neither condition (1.) nor (2.) can be satisfied, and the intention persists indefinitely. The person remains in the period of time defined by that intention, i.e., the person remains in the traumatic incident! The incident floats on as part of the present and is easily triggered, that is the person is easily reminded of it, consciously or unconsciously.
The only way a person can exit from that period of time (and from the intentions, feelings, and behaviors engendered by the trauma) is by confronting the incident, whereupon one can see:
What intentions were formulated at the time of the incident.
Why they were formulated at that time.
Then, and only then, one can satisfy condition (2.), above, for ending an intention, and one can let go of the intention. Without a thorough anamnesis, condition (2.) cannot be satisfied.
Known Traumatic Incidents
Basic TIR is used to address incidents we know have happened to us: a car accident, the painful end of a relationship, a medical procedure, the loss of a loved one, a combat-related incident, the loss of a job or a failure in business or in school, receiving a frightening diagnosis, etc. In Basic TIR, we work on a past traumatic incident until all of the force, pain, and resistance is gone, we reach an end point. Sometimes there will be an earlier incident that is hooked into the first one we started addressing by some similarity in content. Such earlier incidents may be something we haven't thought of in years. If an incident comes up, we address it in the same way until an end point is reached.
Sometimes we have unwanted feelings, emotions, sensations, attitudes, or pains without necessarily being aware of what incidents underlie them. Thematic TIR addresses these unwanted feelings, using the common "theme" or feeling to trace down through a number of incidents until the force and resistance is reduced from all of them and an end point occurs.
Both Basic and Thematic TIR are often employed during a Life Stress Reduction Consultation. Talk to a Cynthia to find out if TIR is right for you. If not, there are many other techniques you can use to prepare for TIR, to address problematic areas of life and to increase your abilities and quality of life.
Investment: $80.00/per hour
As a Life Coach Cynthia assists you with your inner life path which in turn enables you to discover your "deepest values and meanings by which to live."
Do you find yourself asking:
- Who am I?
- What is my life's purpose?
- Why do I continually have problems in relationships?
- Why do I feel as though I am always chasing happiness?
- Why doesn't anyone understand me?
If these questions sound familiar, than this commitment to self is for YOU!
"To make any kind of change in our life, we must begin with ourselves."
Too often, we look outside of ourselves for the answers to our questions and the solutions to our problems. Instead, we ought to be looking for the answers within ourselves, and asking "what steps am I taking to correct the problem?
Externalizing our guilt, sorrow, anger, or lack of direction allows us to avoid accepting responsibility for our own actions.
Through this Life Changing experience you will be taken within yourself to find your own truth, power, and wisdom.
Investment: $80.00/ per hour
Let's design a personal Inner Development Program to tailor your specific needs
This is a 3 month commitment that you are gifting yourself where we will meet weekly to discover your Diamonds within.